Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem are not the same things. Self-confidence is how you feel about your abilities and Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself. It is possible to be self-confident and at the same time have low self-esteem! Why? It is easier to fix what you don’t know then to fix yourself. Only you can fix the things about yourself that you don’t like.
Don’t feel smart enough? Read more! Reading can improve your vocabulary, and improve your understanding of numerous subjects and issues. Read more, and practice what you have read. If nobody’s around to listen than talk to the person in the mirror and ask yourself some questions about that particular subject. The more you talk about something you know the more comfortable or confident you will become.
There’s nothing wrong with admitting you don’t know something, but pretending that you do will not help you build confidence. I am not particularly fond of the expression “fake it till you make it” because it could backfire. Faking it until you make it only works when you know what is holding yourself back and you’re willing to change the way you feel and the way you think.
Change Your Mindset
- If you want to feel happier, put on a smile and laugh more.
- If you want to have more friends, be friendly.
- If you want to improve your relationship, be a good partner.
- If you want to get more work done, stop procrastinating.
- If you want to build self-confidence then face your fears head-on.
- If you feel you are overweight, eat healthier and exercise. Exercise is not only good for the body but good for the mind too.
- If you feel uncomfortable in your clothes, find clothes more suitable for your body shape.
- If you feel that your hair looks terrible, change your hairstyle or get professional help in regards to the condition of your hair.
- If you feel your skin looks bad, find skincare that can improve the look of your skin.
- If you feel your face could use some help in the cosmetic department, learn about the artistry of makeup.
If you look good, you feel good. I know all of this sounds very superficial but there’s nothing wrong with wanting to look good and feel good. It’s when it worries you and makes you anxious about your general appearance that it lowers your self-esteem. It may even affect your day-to-day life and that is when it’s time to take action. Ask for advice or find out how to help yourself through books or the internet. There is a lot of good information out there and some not so good too so use common sense.
Don’t compare yourself to anyone. We are all individuals and each one is unique. Comparing yourself to others keeps you focused on what you don’t like about yourself and your life. Now, I know that telling you to stop comparing yourself to others is easier said than done but you can’t judge the reality of someone’s life by their outward appearance. One just never knows, do we?
Walk with your head up high and shoulders back. Feel great about yourself and others will think the same because how you feel about yourself is very visible to others. Believe in yourself and smile! Do the things you know that will make you happy and love the life you live!!!
Thank you for being part of my life!
Diane aka Lady Dee